Setting Boundaries Are Important

If you have ever been shopping on a busy holiday or the infamous Black Friday, you know that many stores have ropes showing where the line begins. Why? They have to set the boundary for each individual that wants to purchase something. Could you imagine what the store would look like if those boundaries were not there?

What about driving down the road? How do you know which lane is yours or when it is appropriate to pass another vehicle? Those yellow and white lines dictate where you should drive and when you are allowed to invade another lane. Does even the road have boundaries? Shouldn’t we?

Why are we so available to everyone, all the time, every day? For what reason do we allow people to come into our lane whenever they want to? No matter how we feel, we give everyone the ability to access us. We feel obligated to make sure everyone is happy and that we are there to listen to everyone’s problems while neglecting the most important person, OURSELVES.

Girl, Stop It!

Set some boundaries for yourself and those around you. Don’t answer your phone today, it is fine. It is okay to not feel like responding to a text message right now. Do not feel guilty about taking a nap. Why shouldn’t you be allowed to turn your phone on do not disturb for a couple of hours and read a book or watch your favorite show?

It is important to recharge and refocus on yourself.

Do not let anyone guilt trip you into believing that you are selfish for needing a moment alone. In the beginning, it may be hard for people to understand because you have always come when they wanted you to. But if they love you and truly value you they will understand that isn’t anything personal. You have to show up for yourself before you can fully benefit someone else.

Setting boundaries are important. Let those around you know that you are unavailable today and that you will contact them when you are whole again.

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